My New Years resolution was to read more, even just 15-20 min a few days a week. I finished this book today, Present Over Perfect, and I highly recommend it. Actually, I finished the Audible version, but how cute is this photo someone else took of the actual book?
When I quit drinking, I worried that my life would become boring, or that I might be perceived as boring. What I didn’t know, was that a year later, I wouldn’t give a shit! The way I’m perceived based on someone else’s judgement of brave or exciting or dull or boring means absolutely nothing, especially once the drama, toxicity, and negativity from the alcoholic roller coaster are gone. Ruthlessly editing my life of the noise, obligations, and commitments has been so freeing, and that is the main theme of this book. Many excerpts resonated with me, especially this one:
“It’s easier to be impressive to strangers than it is to be consistently kind behind the scenes. It’s easier to show up and be a hit for an hour than it is to get down on the floor with your kids when you’re so tired your eyes are screaming and bone-dry. It’s easier to be charming on a conference call than it is to traverse the distance between you and your spouse, the distance you created.
Sometimes being brave is being quiet. Being brave is getting off the drug of performance. For me, being brave is trusting that what my God is asking of me, what my family and community is asking of me, is totally different than what our culture says I should do.
Sometimes, brave looks boring, and that’s totally, absolutely okay.”